This month I am here to introduce to you she is mom of five sharing with us her struggles and triumphs of coping with her life.
There are people in the world that think those of us who have large families are crazy. Well let me tell you part of that is true, but it can also be an exciting ride. It can be hard to raise a large family these days with the economy the way it is; along with the fact that everyone seems to be only looking out for themselves, yes I am guilty of it myself. Even with that said, we had five beautiful children and here is our story. I never really had a plan for my life, average student and my big dream was to be a singer, teacher, and mother. One of those dreams came true on April 16, 1993, when my oldest was born, and he was planned/unplanned. You see with my family history I wanted to make sure I could have children just in case. So we decided to have our first child, we tried and tried, then when we stopped, bingo baby number one. Then the next three years were like a dream. Bought a trailer, had a miscarriage and another child. So here I am a young mother of two, who by the way finish college during that time. Thinking, what am I doing, two sons under the age of 2. We stayed home a lot, and I didn't have to work. Life was good until my husband's work changed, he became an over the road truck driver, and everything changed. We sold the trailer, and I moved in with my parents, with two toddler boys. It was hard at first since I was a single mother, even people in our new town thought so. Then tragedy struck, or maybe a sign. My husband got into an accident and lost his job. Well, he made it through and came home to be with us and work close to home. That's when we decided it was time to try for that girl I always wanted, then ten months later son number three. I struggled with that fact for a long time, and I believe that is why my youngest son and I don't have the best relationship now. So, moving forward, after number 3, I wanted to do something outside the home, but working wasn't worth it, so I went back to school. Got another AA degree and we decided to try one last time for our girl. Well everyone you better believe your mother when she tells you to be careful what you wish for, we got ourselves girls alright, twins. A new beginning, we had to buy a house and a van. The year I was pregnant with the twins, I couldn't even live in my house because it was a fixer-upper. So we stayed, get this, back at my parents. The home was livable, and the girls were born, now it's time to start raising these little ones. Let me tell you when I was in it, it was just like breathing. I was a natural, yet I always forget to care for myself. I got heavier, sadder, and lonelier since my husband was never really home, he either worked nights or was on the road. I became restless and resentful. We fought all the time, and the kids would just be off doing their own thing. Now don't get me wrong, they were feed and went to school, but when Dad was home that was a whole different story. Fast forward, the kids are older now, and mom and dad are fighting more, then all hell breaks loose. First, our boys are getting into trouble, then all the house repairs that we have been doing for ten years takes its toll. We can't pay the mortgage or get anything extra, and all we fight about is money. But what about the kids, when you are in it you just go through the motions. Husband leaves and kids have to deal with a sad/angry mom. By this time the only ones left at home are the younger three since I tried so hard to keep it together for the kids. We lost the house and decided that 20 years was worth at least another try. Until our youngest son starts acting out and getting in trouble at school, and that made it hell on his sisters, so I pull them out to homeschool, major fail. Mom leaves dad after a significant insult/heartbreak and this time kids take sides, but soon realize that no matter what is happening between us, we are still together as parents. So at this point oldest two boys are out of the house. Youngest son and one daughter with dad, and the other with mom. School is on hold, and everyone is just trying to get through the day. The whole thing is a big mess, and I blame myself. Ok so things weren't going so well, but trust me there is a happy ending to this chapter. A year goes by, and mom and dad are back together and doing better than ever. My oldest has a job and finishing college; he's 24. My second son is in a relationship with a wonderful woman, going on four years now, he's 23. My youngest son got his GED and lived with us, since we found out he has some health issues, but doing well, he's 19. Then we have my beautiful twins; the girls are getting their GED, they are 17. You know when I look back on all those years it seems like yesterday, then I think wow we have come this far and gone through so much and still standing. I just wish I knew about online businesses back then; I believe things might have been a little different. Then again probably not since they say you can't change the past and if you did have a chance to go back you would still make the same mistakes. So, now I am starting a blog for me. I realize now that I spent the last 20 plus years caring for my family and not myself. Well, it's my turn, and my Lifestyle Blog is going to be one of the best. My content will be cooking, crafting, gardening, reading, self-care, and learning about essential oils. Transiting into my second act and I am going to love it. Oh and by the way I did achieve all those dreams, I am a mother of 5 young adults, I was a preschool teacher for ten years, off and on, and I sang in the church choir. So I guess my new project, starting and growing my blog. If you want to hear more about this amazing women check out her social hangouts at www.pinterest.com shanideezworldwww.twitter.com/shanideezworld shanideezworld.com
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3/25/2018 07:45:09 pm
Thank you for linking up and sharing Sharni's interview with us at #BloggersPitStop. I did have a little difficult reading the size of the print though. Have a great week!
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AuthorHi, I'm Marcie Kenny, the women behind this blog. I am not a mother, but I am number seven in a family of nine. I worked in childcare for many years before retiring; now I enjoy blogging about all that I have learned along the way. Archives
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